Why is going on a date today so much different than it was w...

I think the big influences in the past 20 years have been mass free online porn, dating apps that mislead people into thinking they can always do better, and social media. They have all had highly negative effects IMHO, though the last 2 have also had some positive effects too.

Were you young in the 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s? Dating has been changing in every decade.

If you mentioned when exactly you were young, you may get more precise answers.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

Why is going on a date today so much different than it was when I was young?

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